Daring to be honest about what I want

Dearest Community,

There are so many of us who are quietly questioning everything right now: Who we are, who we have been, who we want to be. The kind of world we want and deserve. And the daily cost of not following the longing for more alignment and community.

And yet, there’s so much to be afraid of.

Afraid of becoming unhirable. Falling behind and being left there. I get it. I really do.

I’ve been talking about courage a lot these days.

I often talk about it in the context of harm intervention, or taking a bold stance against injustice.

Today, I want to talk about the kind of courage that feels… quieter.

I want to talk about the importance, and the urgency, of tuning into ourselves, and the immense courage it takes to do that. Being still enough to notice the trembles. Being brave enough to face our wounds and aches, our desires and longings, our fears and contradictions—because sometimes there’s no going back once we acknowledge what is true.

I wonder what becomes possible when we can be more honest with ourselves and each other.

A new episode dropped this morning and it’s all about being honest about my desires. It’s fun, it’s honest, and it’s… unexpected. It’s called “Am I Supposed To Sleep With One Person For the Rest Of My Life?”

It details my exploration around my sexuality, intimacy, and marriage. The wild journey of opening up our marriage. It’s about giving myself permission to be daring about what I want, knowing what is personal is always political.

There is so much violence and trauma all around us. I catch myself holding my breath and clenching my jaw throughout the day. And I’m consciously practicing imagining something different: A world filled with ease, healing, justice, and freedom. And I practice labeling those desires not as “naive” or “idealistic,” but baseline and inevitable. This podcast has been a part of that practice—creating a space where I get to dream, question, complicate, and be free. Can you feel it?

As always, thanks for being here and staying (shoutout to new folks who have joined this community in the last couple of weeks—welcome, I’m so glad you’re here!).

In community,

Michelle

💬 What Are People Saying?

After the “Who Am I Without My Job” episode aired last week, so many of you let me know I wasn’t alone in navigating this liminal space, trying to figure out what’s next. I heard from those of you navigating the demoralizing job market after getting laid off. I heard from many who are burnt out and disillusioned. I heard from folks who are in the midst of untangling their sense of self-worth from productivity and external validation. I resonated with all of your messages.

Thank you for letting me know you feel that way too 🙂.

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